. The Universal Law of Allowing means dropping all judgments and all emotional attachments to what others are, have, or do. This is quite different from being tolerant. Being tolerant is not liking what someone else is or does and holding emotion-laden, negative thoughts about them, but letting them be or do it any way. Practicing The Universal Law of Allowing requires accepting others as they are and granting to them the same rights you ask for yourself -- the right to be, have, and do whatever you choose. Here's one interpretation of that law:
I am that I am and You are that which You are. I accept, honor, and respect you as you are. I honor, allow, support, and respect your right to be who you are, do as you do, and have whatever you have. I honor your right to live your life as you choose, to worship God, or not, as you choose. I honor those same rights in me and call for you to do likewise. I honor the Golden Rule, “Do onto others as you would have them do onto you." (or "Do onto others as they would be done onto.") and call for you to do likewise. As long as you avoid violating others, violating the rights of others or destroying our collective environment, I will honor your right to be, do, have, express, and experience whatever you choose. |
. . Here’s another way of expressing this law: .
Love Yourself, love Your Neighbor, and love God with equal intensity, for all three are one and the same thing. |
. . . Some Expressions of this Law: Most Buddhists are quite skilled at practicing this law. You might also notice that Buddhism is the only major religion that has never started a war. You've probably also heard the Native American saying: "Before you judge a man, you need to walk a mile in his moccasins." Here is a way to practice expressing the Law of Allowing: When you have an emotional reaction to someone else’s behavior, stop and tell yourself: "He (she) is neither good nor bad. I neither like him nor dislike him. He just is. He's another human being doing the best he can. Given his mental programming and conditioning, his beliefs, his circumstances, his present needs and desires, I’d probably be doing pretty much as he is." . What Do You Choose to Support? Are your familiar with the universal principle that says: "To fight something is to feed it." A part of your life force (the energy that sustains your body) goes to support the physical reality of everything that you think about. Do you really want you live your life tied to all those things you think are ugly and painful? Do you really want to give your life force to those things you consider wrong?” If your answer is "no," then break the emotional ties. We have a practice for you that will assist you in doing that. . One way to practice the Law of Allowing: Instead of making others wrong for who they are or what they do, become the observer and simply say, "That’s something I’m simply not willing to accept in my own life." Then allow the other person to be, have, or do as he/she will, without trying to fix anything, or change them, or make them wrong for being who they are, for having what they have, or for doing what they are doing. . . . . Here's a brief quote from The Yoni Dance, Book One -- Circles of Intimacy, Chapter 13, The Law of Allowing, by R. Robin Cote’ Herbert points toward the window and says, “Do you see that lamp post over there across the yard?” “Yes,” I respond. “Do you have emotional attachment to that post? — to where it is? — to what it does?” “No.” “When you can hold that same attitude for all of your fellow human beings, you’ll have mastered the Law of Allowing. Our job is simply to allow all others the free will choice to be who they are and do whatever they do. By giving to others the same thing that we ask for ourselves, we walk our own talk. We also become the role models and set the example for others to follow.” “That lamp post stands there 24 hours every day, seven days every week, and at night, shines light on the surrounding area. That's its nature. That's what it is. That's what it does. If you’re mad, sad, angry, jealous, hateful or hold any other negative emotion regarding that post, is it going to change what the post is or what the post does?” “No.” “If you bitch, moan and complain to the lamp post, is it going to change what it is or what it does?” Again I say, “No.” “If you bitch, moan and complain to someone else about the lamp post, is that going to change what it is or what it does?” “No.” “The same is true for our fellow humans. We each are whatever we are, and we do whatever we do. We cannot change another’s nature, and, short of violence or threats of violence, we cannot force them to do other than what they do. And even if we force them to do other than they do, they still remain who they are.” I ask, “What about using lies and deception?” "You can con them, cheat them, lie to them, or otherwise trick them into being or doing as you would have them be or do, but if you do, you steal their soul, you steal their freedom, you steal their God-granted right of self determination." Two things you should know about that: first, "What you do onto the least of mine, you do onto me," and second, whatever you put out you'd best be prepared to receive it back. . . Applying the Law of Allowing of One's Self: One of the commonly overlooked aspects of this law is applying it to one's self. Christian tradition, which holds a very strong influence over many people in the United States, has done well at teaching about love for God and your neighbor. Unfortunately, it has been a dismal failure at teaching people to love themselves, and as you may already know, if you don’t love yourself, your ability to love anything or anyone else is drastically reduced. Regarding beliefs and thoughts about one' self, there is also the tendency to go to the opposite pole -- to actively judge and dislike one's self -- to feel guilty about being who you are, -- to feel guilty about doing what you do -- to feel guilty about about what you have done in the past. And as you well know, rather being forgiving and allowing, most people have been taught, and presently believe, that those found to be guilty of any wrongdoing should be punished. This leads to the natural progression where guilt about one's self seeks punishment from one's self. When that is the case, then the underlying theme in the persons life becomes one of attracting punishment or withholding the manifesting of one's desires. In your life, who is your harshest critic? Most people will answer that question with the words, "I am." Because the space of negative self-judgment is the foundation of self punishment, we recommend that the first place to apply the law of allowing to yourself. Allow yourself to be as you are and do as you do. That's not to say you should be complacent and continue doing things that are producing negative results. Rather, it's about focusing on who you choose to be and recreating your self as a manifestation of your positive self-image. . |
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